From a new outfit to a thoughtful gift, the cost of attending a wedding can soon stack up. If you’re a guest, we take a look at how much we should spend on a wedding present.
Wedding season is upon us! If you know a happy couple about to tie the knot, you’ll no doubt be wondering how much you should spend on a wedding gift.
According to a survey from American Express, the average cost of attending a wedding is a staggering £391. When you think about having to find somewhere to stay for the night, a new outfit and a few hotel bar drinks, it’s not too surprising.
And when it comes to the gift-buying, nobody likes to arrive empty-handed. To save yourself the bother of wondering if you’ve overspent (or underspent), we’ve looked at what the experts think.
Etiquette expert Dianne Gottsman explains that how much you spend on a wedding gift boils down to how well you know the newly-weds:
An all-day guest: £50
If you’ve blagged yourself an invite to both the day and night do, you probably know the couple pretty well.
While many think that their gift should reflect the cost of the wedding meal, it really just depends on how much you’re comfortable spending. If you’ve been invited to watch the nuptials, a typical amount to spend on a wedding gift is roughly £50.
A night guest: £25
Going to just the evening event instead? Many couples will say on the invite that they’re not expecting you to bring gifts.
However, if you would like to bring something along as a nice gesture, spending around the £25 mark is standard. Dianne Gottsman advises that adding a thoughtful card will also go a long way.
An immediate family member: £100
If it’s your brother or sister tying the knot, you’ll probably want to go the extra mile to show them you care. It’s typical to spend around £100 or above on wedding gifts for close family members; however, this is just a guide.
Your close family members will likely be aware of what you’re able to afford, so don’t spend beyond what you’re comfortable with. After all, you’ve probably already shelled out for hen dos or stag dos by this point!
If £100 is a little too much, a nice restaurant or hotel voucher to put towards the total cost could be a thoughtful idea.
Bridesmaid or groomsman: £100
For the bridal party and groomsmen, £100 is a typical amount to spend on a wedding gift. The happy couple have chosen you to be part of their special day, so you must be close to their hearts.
You could consider stashing £20 or so away each month leading up to the big day, so you won’t be left short when the time comes.
It’s worth remembering that these prices are just a rough guide. Think about how much of your budget you’re willing to spend and go from there – after all, it’s the thought that counts! Diane says:
“Keep in mind that a gift is not an obligation. Certainly the guest wants to show gratitude for the inclusion on their special day, and also support the couple’s wedding, but they should also give what is comfortable.”